Why are so many people (especially women) afraid of doing what they want to do alone. Being alone is often confused with lonliness, and this is a huge mistake! Here are some things I think everyone can and should do alone:
Pee: Men often ask me “Why do women go to the bathroom in groups?” and the answer is “I don’t have a frickin’ clue”. On a night out, I don’t bring make-up with me, so I go to the bathroom only if I need to, or if I’m spectacularly drunk and need a few minutes to sort my life out! Women who need someone to “go” with them confuse me as much as they do you, gentlemen. In fact, if I need to use the facilities, the last thing I want is my BFF listening to me from the next stall.
Go to the cinema: The first time I did this alone I was 16 and spending the summer in another country. I hadn’t made friends yet and there was a film I wanted to see, so I did. Above all the rest of this list, this is now my favourite social thing to do by myself; I get to choose the movie, go at whatever time I want, I don’t have to share popcorn and no one whispers their “witty analysis” in my ear as I struggle to focus on the plot. Try it, it’s fun. I promise.
Go for a drink: As I mentioned here, this is much easier for a man. But screw it, if you want to have a glass of wine after work, go for it. Bringing a book might make you feel more comfortable, but it’s not necessary. Last summer, due to some poor planning, I arrived at a weekend destination 6 hours before my friends. I had a choice between sitting alone in a youth hostel or finding new friends to keep me entertained. I opted for the latter resulting in photos like this:
Travel: Travelling alone as a woman can be daunting. But if you’re comfortable in your own company [and I really am. I really love me. I’m a great person to spend time with] it can be very rewarding. You have to be careful, naturally, but you get to do whatever you want, whenever you want! I spent a week in Sri Lanka reading, writing, chatting to locals, sunning and visiting tourist spots. The best part was that when I got bored in Hikkaduwa (the beachy part) I just upped and left for Kandy (the mountainy part) without having to discuss, or explain or negotiate with anyone.
Go out to eat: Last, and to be honest, least. Of this list anyway. I’m sure there are many, many more things that are fun to do alone that I haven’t thought of or experienced. Going for dinner alone. I do it, but I don’t enjoy it as much as the others for two reasons. 1. Waiting staff: “table for one ma’am?” they ask, with that tone. The one that says they know you’re a loser. “No, please set another place for my imaginary friend JimBob, he’ll be back from the bathroom any second now” and 2. because I have realised one of my favourite parts of going for dinner is the social element – what are you all having? What’s new with you? Did you get the gossip on whatserface? Dining alone, you get to enjoy the food, but that’s it. I still say if you’re in the mood for steak and no one’s around you should go for it, though!
What do you like to do alone? [clean answers, please!] What wouldn’t you do by yourself?